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I'm made it past 50! married for over half my life, have 3 kids all grown and I'm loving this part of my life.I was a nurse in my younger days but an unhealthy dose of rheumatoid arthritis put a damper on my career,so I'm at home with the internet.

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

RemembeRED - Affection


Affection, we all need it, some are huggier than others.


In my family we have always kissed hello and goodbye. I have Italian family,so it was a kiss on each cheek and one on the lips.......oh and the cheek pinching.


I had one uncle that HURT, he would latch on and not let go,all the while talking in Italian that I did not understand.

My kids were very affectionate when little and even now my middle daughter is still very huggy.
My youngest though he just about runs if he sees my arms out. He's all geeerrroff. For my birthday last year he was broke,so said "Mum for your birthday you can have a hug or I can make you some cocktails"( He had been teaching bar service and cocktails and had all the gear)
I said "hmmm let me think...hug?, grog?, hug?, grog? mmm I'll have the hug" He replies " Hug ...ohhh can't I make the cocktails?"

..........He got this mother drunk!!!





All 3 are very affectionate with their partners which is a bit iccky but sweet. It's nice that they are so relaxed around us . Funnily enough I've spent years hiding anything but the most chaste affection from them, the proverbial shhh, the kids will hear, see etc

When I was a small child,my 2 sisters and I would be put to bed for mandatory "rest" on Sunday afternoons. We were told to sleep and not allowed to come out for threats of no dessert or some other treat,so mum and dad could have a sleep. Now I'm a parent, I'm pretty sure, us kids were the only ones doing any sleeping.



I've come across some different kinds of hugging

limp one armed hug... they either don't know you or don't like you.
squish the life out of you hug....you've been missed
the rubbing of the bits hug......creepy but he/she likes you...a lot
the won't let go hug.....annoying and sometimes combined with the squish or the creepy rubbing
patting on the back hug.....usually between men, it's the "I'm not gay hug" Can also be a bereavement hug though when there are not words for the loss.
open arms and charging toward you hug........there is no getting out of this one
standing in front of you moving forward waiting for you to hug first hug.......creepy and annoying







18 comments:

  1. I have a brother-in-law who does the groping the bits hug. YUCK! NO clue what my sister saw in him.

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  2. Yesterday I remember comforting a grieving woman...it was really just an arm pat/rub thing. Does that qualify as a hug? I think so.

    My youngest gives the best hugs...squishy but not too much. He makes me feel very tiny. That's good for someone who's felt large forever.

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  3. I, too, come from an Italian family. Well, 1/2 Italian, 1/2 Irish. I am a very touchy, feely person, and I have to remember that there are people out there that do NOT like to be touched! I married into a German family who SHOOK hands to say hello, even if they hadn't seen the family member in a LONG TIME! What is up with that? Once this Dago (and I can use that word since I AM one!) came into the family, they've all learned how to hug! My kids are huggers, my son more than my daughter.

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  4. I'm a hugger too :) and I think mandatory naps on weekend afternoons is a good idea! :)

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  5. I have had to learn to hug. It does not come naturally to me and I always feel very self conscious when doing it.

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  6. I just hate those gropey kind of hugs....uggg....I was on the receiving end of one of those on Saturday! But mostly I love hugs. Holly still loves to give them and Jack, well, I just help myself and he can't fight me off! lol

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  7. I love hugs! Giving and receiving.

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  8. I didn't come from a huggy kind of family, nor did we ever, ever say I love you. I'm so glad that my girls are all huggy touchy beings and all of them are free and easy with their declarations of love. I'm so grateful for that, especially since I didn't have any of that.

    And there is nothing more painful than awkward huggers. Well, maybe the groping hug, but some people just shouldn't be allowed to hug.

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  9. I am laughing at the first comment by Portia...I feel for her and her sister!

    My father's insane Indian family will stare me up and down before they determine if I'm worthy of a hug. It irritates the living daylights out of me!

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  10. Love hugging. I'm a very huggy huggy kissy kissy person. Total italian in me. Can't help it. I hate a bag hug. And a bad kiss from your man and I know there's a trouble a brewing, but that's a different topic. I love this post about hugs!

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  11. Interestingly enough, I 'm sometimes huggy with some but not other relatives. Maybe the ones that offer me wine get more attention.

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  12. My family never hugged, so I tried to do it with my kids a lot. I also used to hold their hands while we walked, but it was hard for me to do these things. Now, it comes easily.

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  13. portia...*shudder*

    stephV ..i think so too.naaaw to yolur youngest.

    Pat, i love a family of huggers :) the handshaking is weird.

    steph.. I second the napping :)

    Andrew, yes I think my Dan is like that now, though when little he was a big hugger.you become all arms and neck???

    lyndy LOL huggy kids are the best :)

    BB.yay :)

    joann, pretty much the same here, so i love the hugging.lol @ not being allowed to hug

    Ameena..I cant even imagine that!!!great first impressions!!


    climb, thanks :) us italians are huggy and kissy.

    Mrs Tuna, same, i think you know who likes hugging and who doesnt lol..then make its the wine...

    Belle, glad it comes easy now, hugging is nice :)

    Emma, thanks :)

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